I can’t believe it! Someone, please pinch me! After three years of fostering, several years of waiting, and a devastating heart-break, Scott and I FINALLY celebrated Adoption Day! Last week, we adopted Baby Blue. We can now call him, Chase Matthew. I can also show his handsome face, too!
Some of you have been following our foster journey from the beginning. You know about the tragedy we dealt with, just a few months before Blue (Chase) came into our lives. To say that Scott and I were apprehensive about loving another baby and giving our hearts over, completely is an understatement. But, God worked His miraculous hand in having just the right people in place, at the right time. Baby Blue was meant to be Chase Matthew long before we even met him.
It’s hard to believe that Chase’s case was considered a fast-track. Meaning, the timeline was actually sped up a bit to terminating parental rights. It still seemed like a long time before the three of us could be a real family. (A year and a half.) The reality is, when you’re dealing with foster care, the state really goes above and beyond to give the biological family chances to get their child/children reunified. Thus, why some children are in foster care for several years, before they are firmly planted in their forever home.
It’s such a bittersweet journey. Of course, you don’t want to break up a family! However, you don’t want to neglect caring for a child who needs a family. I think the hardest part of being a foster parent is knowing how to love the children. On one hand, you’re expected to love the foster child/children you care for, as if they are YOUR OWN. But, it can sometimes backfire on you. As, Scott and I were told before that we were seen as a threat to one of our foster baby’s biological parents.
I’d like to say that foster parenting is the hardest job I could have ever signed up for. But, there is so much potential for the extraordinary, in every foster-scenario. Baby Berry (Elena), our second foster child, is back with her Bio Dad. He’s been so kind and appreciative towards us. Even staying in touch and allowing her to see us a few times a year! We even keep in touch with Honeybear! For every scenario that justifies just how “broken” our system can be, there is almost a fairy-tale-like ending!
Scott and I are so happy to officially call Baby Blue, our son. We chose the name Chase, because it just seemed to suit his cute little face and dynamic personality!
The months leading up to adoption day went by slowly. We knew that we were in fact moving towards adoption. But, one thing after another seemed to come up. Fingerprints, again. Medical Examinations, again. Home checks, again. Visits from the Division’s nurse. The law guardian, etc. A lot of this is routine, but of course, it became a bit frustrating.
Scott and I had been through so much, in the past, with Baby Banana. I just couldn’t even take a full breath, until the judge finally declared us a family!
Adoption Day could NOT have gone any sweeter. The weather was absolutely perfect. The date fell on spring break, so the cousins that have welcomed Chase into their lives, from the get-go, could all be there! The court room was actually packed. Two sets of grandparents. A few Aunts and Uncles, and five cousins. It was one of the happiest days of my life!
We had a lovely lunch, at a nearby country club, overlooking the Delaware River. It was just a small, intimate gathering. But, it was just enough to celebrate the official welcoming of Chase Matthew Scheyer.
I guess the one thing I really hope to share with you, after this experience, is this: God does have a beautiful plan for your future. No matter where you are, how old you are, what happened yesterday, etc. TRUST that He has a wonderful plan, just like he promised!
I leave you with a few more photos of our new FAMILY of THREE!