I know that New Year’s Resolutions can be corny and ineffective. I’ve read that 80% of them fail by February! That’s not a very promising statistic. I also read that in order to truly make a lasting improvement (like a habit) it has to be repeated for 60 days. So, if we can just keep a commitment until the end of February, we can make 2019 a successful year!
Baby Blue has recently turned ONE! On Sunday, we celebrated his first birthday, with an intimate birthday party, at The House on High Street. We had our immediate family, a cake, and some homemade Italian food. It was a great celebration! Even though I can’t (yet) show you Baby Blue’s adorable face, I can still share some photos and highlights from his First Birthday Party…
Dear Baby Blue,
I can’t believe that in just a few days, you’ll be ONE! It seems like yesterday that we got the call from the agency about you. Your foster-daddy and I were taking care of Baby Berry, at the time. We knew that she would love having another baby around.
There was a time I thought I’d never make it. But, in just a few months, I’ll be celebrating my tenth year wedding anniversary! It is said that tin or aluminum best represent the tenth year of marriage because these metals reflect the resilience and tougher-than-nails strength of a marriage. Since the average length of marriages that end in divorce is eight years, I suppose it’s safe to say, Scott and I somehow made it over the hump!
People often tell me, “I could never be a foster parent. I would get too attached.” I think the first thing that scares people away is the fear of losing a foster child~ especially after a long period of time. I’ll admit that this was my initial fear in saying, “I do,” to foster care. But, now? After just a few foster children in, I’ve come to understand that there are so many other (perhaps overlooked) reasons not to be a foster parent.
(Yes! That’s a picture of her beautiful face!) This week, I spoke with one of our foster baby’s Biological Father. Since Baby Berry was reunified in late December (at eight months old), he has been gracious enough to allow her (and us) to remain a part of each other’s lives. Scott and I see Baby Berry about once a month. In April, we hosted Baby Berry’s First Birthday Party, here, at The House on High Street. I’m still pinching myself that Scott and I actually have a “part” of one of our foster baby’s life!
Oh, Boy! Baby Blue is ten months old! So much is happening, lately. Milestones, precious moments, and memories in the making. Scott and I (along with our loved ones) are celebrating Baby Blue’s ten month birthday with gratefulness, humility, and joy.
I’ve gone back and forth with this question, for the past twenty years. No joke. I think it’s normal for us to wonder if God really gives us the desires of our heart. After all, some of us are spending years and years waiting for the desires of our heart. While others may be dealing with a devastating loss that hurts a thousand times more. And yet, there’s so many bible verses that state it loud and clear. God must have known that we would wrestle with the answer to this question throughout our lives.
In my opinion, being a foster mommy has been the most humbling, joyous, painful, unpredictable, and vulnerable journey that I could have ever bargained for. I’ve learned a few lessons along the way. Things they don’t teach during your training classes. I figured I’d share some with you, today. Just in case you’re interested in fostering. Or, just interested.
Scott and I are still fairly new at this. It’s been about three years. We fostered three babies. (Two were reunified.) We currently have a nine month old, baby boy (Baby Blue), whom we may be adopting. We fostered a pre-teenager for a shorter amount of time than we anticipated (two months). And, we almost took on a foster-to-adopt sibling pair, under three years old. It’s been a roller coaster ride of experiences and emotions. To say the least.
Baby Blue is nine months old, and as hard as it is to imagine, getting cuter by the day! Scott and I are enjoying every minute watching him grow and mature. This is the time that babies begin to develop their own personality and demonstrate so much curiosity.